It has come to light that a man who recently became a parent struggled with postnatal depression after the birth of his first kid. He states that he was inconsolable because he was unable to establish an emotional connection with his son.
Yesterday, on “Christian O’Connell’s Radio Show,” Jack Post, age 34, discussed it after his wife Bianca gave birth to their first child, little Gordon. This was six months after the birth of their first child.
The arrival of my kid in March marked the beginning of everything. I could hardly contain my enthusiasm. “I felt like I was the perfect husband up until the birth, and then something shifted after he was born, and it was extremely bizarre,” Post said.
The new father freely admits that in the first few short hours after the delivery, he did not experience the emotions that he had anticipated feeling for the newborn baby. As a result of this, he felt guilty and spent his nights “weeping uncontrollably” while being unable to comprehend the feelings that he was experiencing in himself.
I should have loved him so much, but I didn’t feel it. I felt guilty and embarrassed for bringing this little kid into the world, and I should have loved him so much, but I didn’t. – Bianca went through the entire pregnancy and gave birth to him, yet here I am, the miserable one, sobbing on the floor because I am the one who is responsible for everything. I was wracked with feelings of guilt, embarrassment, and shame because of it.
Post made the decision to seek therapy from a psychotherapist three months after Gordon was born, and the therapist informed him that she was suffering from postpartum depression.
The Journal of the American Medical Association reports that approximately 10 percent of men experience depression either before the birth of their kid or shortly after the birth of their child.
According to research conducted by Psychologist Scott Bia, both new moms and new fathers experience genuine shifts in the levels of hormones in their bodies after the birth of a child. He asserts that these biological characteristics, in addition to changes in lifestyle and sleep patterns, are factors that contribute to postpartum depression in men.
According to him, the piece of advise is to “get yourself together” and “don’t be a weakling,” which translates literally to “demonstrate who the man of the home is.”
The new father shares that very quickly everything shifted, and he started to bond with the infant, who is now six months old.
– Now I love him so much, that I didn’t feel him in the first three months, says Jack.
He also confessed that he hopes he could go back in time and tell himself that everything is going to be okay and that those conflicting sentiments won’t stay forever. He wishes he could go back in time and tell himself that.