In the judgment and thoughts of the children, the romantic partnership that their parents have holds an extraordinary amount of weight. They mimic their parents’ every action and move and frequently take sides in the conflict that exists between their parents in order to act as defenders, mediators, or moderators. If you ask a youngster if they would like to take someone’s side or be someone’s protector, they will tell you no because they love both of their parents equally and cannot choose which one they love more.
What each and every child hopes to observe in the relationship between their parents is:
1. Respect, especially when they are in disagreement with you
This would imply that it is acceptable to present the youngster with competing viewpoints, as long as it is also demonstrated that each viewpoint is worthy of being discussed and explained.
2. to inquire concerning one another
The youngster interprets a greater interest in the partner as giving attention and care to the other person (What is your mother doing? Where is your father?) when the child asks questions like these.
3. For the purpose of displaying delight upon seeing each other
The child wants to see how happy and excited you are to see each other after you have been away from home for an extended period of time, such as at work or for an extended period of time.
4. to express gratitude and appreciation to one another
Gratitude is a human value that not only contributes to the development of stronger and more trustworthy relationships, but also to the improvement of one’s ability to communicate effectively (Thank you for making me a snack for work, this really means a lot to me).
5. To participate in or participate in things that they both like doing together.
The goal of the kid is to determine whether or not the parents have a connection with one another, whether they have interests or activities, and whether or not they have things in common that they like doing together.
6. To take an interest in the sentiments of the parterre, as well as tough days and anniversaries
You should celebrate your wedding anniversaries, but you should also appreciate the fact that certain days are difficult and busy. The kid is interested in watching his or her parents cooperate with one another in some way. (I can tell you’re in a gloomy mood, so if you’re up for it, I’d like to accompany you on a stroll through the nearby park.)
The primary objective of my sessions is to teach the child that he does not bear any responsibility for, power over, or control over the relationship that exists between his parents. This is because the child feels more involved in the marriage of his parents when he is younger than when he is older. The child will have the psychological capacity to love both of their parents in equal measure once they have been liberated from the harmful and unwarranted sentiments of remorse, fear, or guilt that they may experience as a result of their perception that their parents’ relationship is dysfunctional.